Questions about arguments to ask before marriage
Arguing is no sign of a bad relationship. What matters is how you argue and whether you find your way back to each other afterwards.
Why it matters
Contempt, constant criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling wear a relationship down. Couples who can name their own pattern have a far better chance of changing it.
Six questions to ask each other
- How did our last argument feel from your side?
- Which argument do we keep having without ever solving it?
- What do you need from me straight after a fight?
- Is it all right for you if one of us asks for a break in the middle of an argument?
- What did arguing look like in the family you grew up in?
- What should never be said between us, however angry we are?
Find out where you two stand.
Talking is the first step. In the test you each answer sixty questions on your own and see side by side where you match and where you differ.