Questions about children to ask before marriage
Whether to have children is one of the few questions where no compromise exists. You cannot have half a child. It deserves a clear answer before you marry, not a hopeful assumption.
Why it matters
Many couples agree on wanting children and discover later that they meant different numbers, different timing or very different ideas about raising them.
Six questions to ask each other
- Do you want children, and how sure are you?
- When would you want the first one, and how many do you picture?
- What would we do if we could not have children the natural way?
- Who stays at home in the first years, and for how long?
- What from your own childhood do you want to pass on, and what not?
- How strict do you want to be as a parent?
Find out where you two stand.
Talking is the first step. In the test you each answer sixty questions on your own and see side by side where you match and where you differ.